It might seem way too simplistic, but when you are Labelled, ALCOHOLIC, all hope seems to drain from you. There is not one piece of news, clinician or so called expert, that does not use this description of someone who drinks too much. They apply it to each and all, like a great big blanket of despair. You, once boxed as an ALCOHOLIC, are diseased, powerless, weak and have no choice. How does anyone in the modern world, assume that by making this such a depression title will help the vast majority of people who have got no where near late stage alcoholism in it’s true form, where there has to be a swig of it to start the day or function in any way at all.
This has made me so angry for so long, with the latest news of help for children of ALCOHOLICS needing help being the straw that has finally broken this camels back.
So many Mothers see are so terrified of this label being stuck on the front of their head by GPs, that they dare not even go to seek help, never mind tell the truth about their particular habit with it. It doesn’t take a genius to work out how that pans out. From drinking perhaps habitually, and certainly too much, they just start to drink more, and once as the AA brigade would have us all believe they have hit rock bottom only then can they be helped.
That is NOT true. All my clients have wanted to intervene, to be treated with respect and understanding, not shoved in some box of being a fool and worse than that a dreadful parent.
Stopping smoking is a total walk in the part by comparison, you are hailed as a hero, given lots of praise, the use of cessation clinics, patches, sprays and not one person will make you feel ashamed for doing so. Not the case with booze, the total opposite. We have to sneak about, keeping secrets, telling lies, getting more and more vulnerable, and if we do pluck up the courage to tell the powers that be, what help do they give? Bugger all is the answer.
So come on, change the record, this is the 21st century. Be in praise of those who decide they want to stop before the wheels fall off, help them, admire them, encourage them. It is time for change, and please, Liam Byrne et al, will you get this message through to government and start supporting appropriate care that works!! Only 5% of those who attend Alcoholics Anonymous can say they are ‘recovered’ whereas 89% of my lot are well, and I am a very small fish in a vast pond, so roll out a few more of me and we might get somewhere.
We shall also be releasing an App, and although it cannot replicate the bespoke one to one service we provide here, I sincerely hope that it will change attitudes, give personal control to all sexes with a new approach.